I can’t believe it’s almost 2013! We have been in Calgary, away from our home that has not sold, living with Robs parents (slight cringe) for almost 6 months now. It seems a lot longer and not because we living with Robs parents either. It seems a lot longer because of the changes that have happened to us because of our new home as people and as a family.
The biggest change in our outside world is, of course, how we are living communally. The Strange thing is I am happier than I have ever been. Which brings me to the changes that have come about in me, partly, because of living as an extended family. I have enjoyed being a very private person, fiercely controlling of my environment until 6 months ago.
I knew when we decided to move to Calgary to grow our home business despite our house not selling we would need support from our family to help our dream continue to move forward. They were there for us, as always, I love them very much and know this is a big sacrifice for them as well. A sacrifice of space, privacy, preferred routine to name the obvious things not to mention all the little subtle things. We are lucky to have a supportive family. Living like this has helped me grow in ways I know will help us when we are on the road.
Living with less privacy, less space, around different habits and food choices have been a challenge for all of us. Even though we are all family we are two separate families, who live very differently when we are apart. Living like this was my biggest hesitation about leaving our home in Cranbrook.
Today I am so glad that hesitation didn’t hold us back. I have a better knowledge of how I will feel on the road when accommodations are uncomfortable, the food is not what would be my first choice, the environment is one I can’t control. This lesson is invaluable, comforting even. Comforting because I have a basic knowledge of how to deal with any anxiety that arises from a lack of environmental control.
Another change personally is I look at everything differently in this city I grew up in. I appreciate her more, see beauty where I didn’t before. When we lived here we were so busy with our jobs, getting from A to B, keeping up with whoever and everything. I took this city and all of her surrounding mountainous glory for granted.
I realize there is a lot that is new here in Calgary since we left 8 years ago so that adds to the admiration I feel. We really are living like we are traveling already. My mindset has already switched to travel mode when it comes to really looking at a view and feeling awed by what I see. Living in close quarters has helped me stop being a home body. Now I recognize and seek out different things to see and do around town. Doing this ignites a passion in me, the passion I feel when we visit a country we’ve never been to before, that drives me to get out and explore.
The most profound impact on our family has been the time we have to be together. Quality time, having more of it to be together and to see and explore different places and try new things. Everyone in the family has gained from this time together. Makai has had so many adventures with his Grandma and learned so much about his Auntie. He is closer to them.
This impact is the entire reason for our travel dream, the entire reason the plan was hatched. I feel a sense of peace having so much less materially. It is actually a relief. Ultimately I have come to the realization that it is true, home is where the heart is. We don’t need all the ‘stuff’ I once thought we did to make a home. What we need is quality time and new experiences together where ever to grow with our son and find some of that travel passion that drives us to go explore then be glad to come home, where ever in the world home may be.
Take a look at some other posts from traveling families on the topic of “Home”.